There is a popular misconception that older people don’t have sex as much as younger people. The assumption is that sex drive reduces with age. As it turns out, the desire for sex doesn’t necessarily diminish. More often, it’s the ability to have sex that becomes compromised. This ability is affected by many factors, both biological and medical.
It is believed that once women go into menopause, they lose interest in sex. Menopause can be a frustrating because hormonal changes cause hot flashes, cramps, weight gain, nausea, and other symptoms that may take a woman’s mind off sex. Unfortunately, the hormonal changes can also leave her vagina dry, making sex unpleasant and uncomfortable.
For some women, this puts them off sex altogether. However, for other women, menopause makes them more interested in sex. Many are in their forties and fifties, so they are more confident in their bodies, personalities, and sexuality. And now that they don’t have to worry about unplanned pregnancy and insecurity, they may want more sex than they ever have before.
Women who wish to remain sexually active during and after menopause have many options. They understand their bodies best and are confident and comfortable with their partners. They can request sexual positions that are less uncomfortable on their vaginas, and they can use lubricants to ease penetration and reduce painful friction.
Older men may shy away from sex because they feel their age is a negative factor. They would all like to last longer in bed, but they may lack the muscular control and stamina to keep their partners happy. Fortunately, there are many techniques and medications to help.
Men need to explore the causes of their sexual challenges. As we’ve said before, men don’t lose their desire to have sex. After all, both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are characterised by a desire to have sex.
The whole problem is that while these men want to sexually please their partners, they seem physically unable to. The assumption is that some men are simply too old to hold an erection, but often there are other contributing factors.
For example, the older we get, the more susceptible we are to illness and infection. That means older men take more medicine than younger men, and sometimes these medications have sexual side effects. So, his erectile issues may be less about his age and more about the amount of medication in his blood. Sleep apnea can also cause lower testosterone levels.
Psychologically, low self-esteem can lead to decreased libido. As men get older, they may retire or be retrenched. For many men, self-image is tied to their career, so a lot of retirees might get depressed once they no longer feel like useful members of society.
This depression can affect their sex drive, and once their performance is affected, they become even more depressed. The cycle continues until the man can find an alternate source of self-respect. That said, a lower sex drive in an older man may have a medical cause. If he has an endocrine disorder, it can affect his ability to achieve and maintain an erection.