November 2, 2017

There is a popular misconception that older people don’t have as much of an interest in sex as younger people do. Whether this belief is driven by pop culture or personal experience, many people think that libido always decreases with age.

As it turns out, this assumption isn’t necessarily true. Medical experts say that a person’s desire for sex doesn’t always diminish as they get older, but instead, it’s the ability to have sex that becomes compromised.

This ability to have sex is affected by many factors, including physical and mental causes. In this post, we will discuss how ageing impacts both men’s and women’s appetite for sex. We’ll also share tips for boosting your libido to increase your ability to have sex as you get older.


How does ageing impact a woman’s libido?

Let’s start by exploring the biological factors that can impact a woman’s sex drive as she gets older. It’s commonly believed that women lose interest in sex once they start menopause.

For many women, menopause is extremely frustrating to deal with and accept. Firstly, menopausal women have to deal with hormonal changes that cause symptoms like hot flashes, cramps, weight gain, and nausea. In terms of sexual side effects, menopause can also make a woman’s vagina dry, making sex unpleasant. With the combination of these uncomfortable physical symptoms, sex is often the last thing on a woman’s mind.

But menopause also takes a negative toll on women’s mental and emotional wellbeing. Some women find it difficult to reconcile with the fact that they have reached the end of their child-bearing years. This type of emotional distress can also diminish the female libido.

For some women, these factors put them off sex altogether. However, for other women, menopause makes them more interested in sex.

Typically, women start menopause in their forties and fifties. At this age, many women have grown to become more confident in their bodies, personalities, and sexuality. And now that they don’t have to worry about unplanned pregnancy and insecurity, they may want more sex than they ever have before.

Women who wish to remain sexually active during and after menopause have many options. They understand their bodies well and are confident and comfortable with their partners, which makes sex easier — even if menopause is negatively influencing their mental health.

To deal with dry vaginas and other unpleasant menopausal symptoms, older women can request specific sexual positions that are easier on their vaginas. They can also use lubricants to reduce painful friction.


How does a man’s sex drive change with age?

For men, it’s a slightly different story (with some similarities). As we’ve said before, men don’t lose their desire to have sex. After all, both premature ejaculation (PE) and erectile dysfunction (ED) are characterised by a desire to have sex.

However, older men may shy away from sexual activity because they believe that their performance won’t measure up due to their age. Although they would all like to last longer in bed, they may lack the muscular control and stamina to keep their partners happy.

The whole problem is that while these men want to please their partners, they seem physically unable to. The assumption is that some men are simply too old to achieve or maintain an erection. But often, there are other contributing factors at play.

For example, the older we get, the more susceptible we are to illness and infection. As a result, older men tend to take more medicine than younger men, and sometimes these medications have sexual side effects. So as it turns out, a man’s erectile issues may be less related to his age and more about the amount of medication in his blood.


Other medical conditions have been proven to cause erectile dysfunction too. High blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, obesity, and multiple sclerosis are all well-known risk factors for ED.

There are also several psychological issues that lead to decreased libido. Common conditions like anxiety, depression, and stress frequently contribute to a reduced sex drive. Often, these struggles are related to financial worries or relationship struggles.

Similarly, low-self esteem can lower a man’s libido. For example, as men get older, they may have to retire from their job. For many men, self-image is tied to their career, so a lot of retirees feel less confident or depressed once they no longer see themselves as important members of society.

This depression can negatively influence their sex drive, and once their performance is affected, they become even more depressed. The cycle continues until the man can find an alternate source of self-respect.

Fortunately, there are many techniques and medications designed to boost a man’s libido and treat erectile dysfunction. These days, you don’t even need to visit a doctor’s office in person to get a diagnosis and treatment plan for erectile dysfunction.

Instead, you can schedule a virtual consultation with an online medical clinic like Men’s Health Direct. Our team of Australian licenced doctors works with men around the country to treat common sexual disorders like Erectile dysfunction and Premature ejaculation discreetly. We understand that these are sensitive health concerns, and we approach each patient’s situation with compassion and confidentiality.

Here’s how it works. You can book an appointment with Men’s Health Direct by calling 1800 200 500 or visiting our website to request a consultation. During your conversation with the doctor, you’ll share a bit about your medical history, current health conditions, and the symptoms you’re currently experiencing.


From there, our medical team will put together a customised treatment plan that’s right for you, including medications and behavioural techniques to practice at home. If you require any prescriptions, our pharmacists will ship them directly to your front door in discreet packaging.


Get in touch with Men’s Health Direct today to get started. Our doctors are available between 9 am and 6 pm, Monday to Friday, and our medical support staff works 24/7.

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